Vayera 5780

November 13, 2019

Welcoming Guests

This parashah begins by telling us about our Forefather Avraham’s

exemplary kindness when welcoming guests. The Torah instructs us

how to fulfil the commandment of performing chessed, kindness,

when Yitro instructs Moshe Rabbenu (Shemot 18:20), “Vehodahta

lahem et haderech yelchu bah,” “And you shall let them know the

way in which they should go.” Our Sages deduce that “the way”

refers to the way of bestowing kindness upon our fellow man. The

Torah refers to it as “the” way, i.e. the given path that our Forefather

paved for us through his example.

Let us delve into the story of this parashah, and observe Avraham

Avinu’s way of welcoming guests, so that we may come to emulate


On the third day after his circumcision, at the ripe age of

ninety-nine, G-d came to visit Avraham and ask about his welfare.

Avraham was sitting outside at the time, looking out for someone

whom he could invite into his home. When spotting three possible

guests, who were actually angels in disguise sent by G-d, Avraham

requested that G-d’s Presence not depart while he invited his guests

  1. From here we see, firstly, that the mitzvah of welcoming guests

is even greater than having an audience with the Divine Presence

(Shabbat 127a). Avraham got up and ran towards his potential guests

(notwithstanding the physical discomfort that he was in), convinced

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The 613 Mitzvot

them to come in, have a rest and eat something. Avraham ensured

that his “weary” guests had water with which to wash, and sat them

down under a shady tree, until he was able to prepare food for them.

Not wanting them to think that he was overburdening himself for

them, he suggested preparing something small for them to eat.

However, he prepared a sumptuous banquet for them, including a

separate cow’s tongue for each one of them. However, since he did

not want his guests to wait too long, everything was done as quickly

as possible. These are some of the ways of performing kindness that

our Forefather Avraham taught us. Additionally, Avraham made it

into a family project, by involving his son, Yishmael, and asking him

to bring water for the guests. It became an act of education for his

whole family and everyone was involved in helping take care of the

guests’ needs.One of the things a person can learn from Avraham

is that after one has warmly welcomed his guests and provided for

them generously, he should see if they need to rest. (Sometimes,

the guest’s need to rest may be more important to him than food.)

After their stay, one should make sure to accompany them out, and

if necessary, show them the way. Having merited to be raised in

such a type of home and seeing real hospitality, I can bear witness

to the tremendous influence that true hospitality has on guests.

Let us look for opportunities to bestow kindness upon others.

Let us see to it that there is “organized hachnasat orchim” in our

communities. Additionally, when inviting guests, let us try to

emulate the exemplary ways of Avraham; if not all of them, then at

least some of them. The more we can make our guests feel as if they

are in their own home, relaxed, comfortable and cared for, the more

we will be following the example of our Forefather Avraham.

Shabbat shalom